It seems that we often use the phrase, “It is what it is”. My definition of the phrase to mean, “It’s not this and it’s not that; it’s something more subtle that I don’t have a name for, and I’m ok with that”.
Does my blackness scare you? Does it offend you? Is it because I am black? Those are some of the questions that ponder my brain as I am having a conversation with people who continue to look at me weirdly because of my race.