Another deep post but hard-hitting topic for you to think over.
This is for anyone who like myself has been cheated on.
I am still none the wiser as to why anyone would do it. So I know exactly the feelings you’re going/went through.
Let me just go straight in!
Okay, maybe not of all of us. But I know I went a few weeks thinking like this but I learned very quickly, I can’t blame all women and rightly so.
Regardless of what your gender is, you got burnt by a dirty, little cheating scumbag. Unfortunately, it may happen to the best of us at least once. You live and learn. Build your self-esteem and confidence back up by accepting the fact that they were an absolute dickhead and nothing to do with you. They decided to do what they did and will probably blame you for it.
Have you ever loved someone so much, you’d do anything for them? Yeah, well make that someone yourself now. If a person doesn’t value you, do not hesitate to keep it moving. Your life won’t end without them in it. A person who values you, wouldn’t put themselves in a position to lose you! Accept the fact that there are loads of people out there that won’t cheat and will appreciate you.
Remember, if someone cheats on you they do not love you. If someone cheats on you they do not care about you as much as they say they do. If someone cheats on you, it means that for a split second you were off their mind long enough for them to put another person in their arms that should only be for you. If someone cheats on you, God knows, I hope you don’t go back to them because your worth is so much more than that.
You didn’t make a mistake by loving them. You did what you’re supposed to do. You didn’t make a mistake by trusting them, believing them, or being there for them. Do you know why? Your actions reflect you! It was just unfortunate they couldn’t see that or took it for granted.
Yes, you can give someone everything and they’ll still cheat. It’s not about what you give them, it’s about they want to give you. No one can take your man/woman. They can only take your dog/hoe.
The right one will come around in due time but no need to try and force or go looking for it. Until then, meet a variety of people and see what happens naturally. Do not try and analyze or even attempt to understand people on why they cheated, moretime, it’ll leave you
Simply live to enjoy your life (for now) on your own and just have a good time.
Cheating seems like a very common thing in general. The number of times I jump on my Twitter timeline and see someone getting exposed for it. Or people talking about how different it is for men and women.
I’ve always been an avid non-believer of cheating. It is a disgusting and disgraceful act, that holds no weight in any relationship regardless of what is happening in your respective one. I wasn’t happy with certain things in my previous relationship but tried to work on that and give her the benefit of the doubt. I won’t say, I wasn’t wrong in the things I did or said sometimes. But I never EVER cheated despite the offers I was given. I don’t believe in a ‘perfect’ relationship, I think our society nowadays seem to think it is out there. Maybe it is. However, we’re human after all and we all have our way of thinking and you can never know someone 100% regardless of how much time you spend time with them. I feel social media has played a major part in that. How many ‘relationship goals memes’ have you seen today? People need to get real. Women need to stop judging relationships by romantic films, their favourite celebs, or what their friends pretend to show the world. Men need to understand; women aren’t what they have seen in porn.
People will think I am still burnt by my experience but believe me, far from that. I even make jokes about what happened to me now, so that’s how far I’ve come. A few are shocked, how open I can be about it. But I am so focused on me, I don’t give a shhh what she’s doing with her life I hope she finds what she was looking for. But I still wish I did this to her tbh
Anyway, now in 2016, I have control over my shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You’re not competing with another person; you’re competing with my comfort zones. A couple of my friends has said to me, “You’ll never find anyone with this attitude!” Ahhh well. F it.
I have quite a few women friends, a lot of male counterparts are a bit baffled as to why I have them if I am not trying to do anything with them.
1st thing first, if I connect with a woman, it’s not to do with them being the opposite sex. We may just have a lot in common and we just click. I talk to women as human beings and I am not some guy just trying to drop panties. I’d think my peeps acknowledge and respect that. Call me a sideman or whatever but there’s nothing wrong with having these types of relationships tbh. It’s healthy to understand how a woman works. How do you expect to find a wife (or long term partner) if you don’t know how to have a good relationship with one outside of trying to add her to your list!
For the scumbag cheaters reading this
Why are you here? I don’t want you anyway near my website or social media tbh. But the next paragraph is for you.
You cheated on someone who is willing to do anything for you. You’ve actually cheated YOURSELF out of true loyalty. If you can cheat on your partner and look them deep in the eye and tell them, you love them. Then you’re the lowest kind of person on the pyramid.
and come off my site please! Karma will find you, so hopefully it’ll feel like this.
After the drama of last year, I took a step back from ALL of my friends. Completely isolated everyone locked off my social media from my phone (including WhatsApp). This showed me, my real friends.
Why did you do that? I hear you ask.
I just needed time alone to self-love myself (pause lol) and to do some research on a number of things. With the 2 months away from a lot of people, I lost respect for about 90% of them. People who I thought who were my peeps really showed their true colours. They were only there as I was a hot topic for that moment. It’s cool though. I am not some gossip mag that you can pick up and then fling when something new comes along, you won’t be hearing from me anymore.
I am 21* (Lol) and a very good looking chap
(The self-love is strong lol) and thinking where will be my wife come from?
At this age I am only interested in consistency, stability, respect, and loyalty. (If you love Supermalt, extra 10 points tbh lol) If you can’t offer me any of that, then I highly doubt, I’ll be interested. I don’t care how much money you got, what car you’re driving, what job you have. I am not looking for some weak-minded woman who cares about these stupid materialistic things or if you can’t keep her panties on if a couple of guys are dropping games on you.
But at this precise moment, when you see me by myself, don’t get it twisted. I am my team. I was born alone and will probably die alone. I am comfy on my ones after all. So why should I be worried?
Thanks for reading!
The next blog will be a much lighter read!
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I FREAKING LOVED THIS PIECE! You literally had me screaming , laughing , finger clicking , and slightly ready eyed!
Lool thanks for the self help piece ! Got me feeling like a INDEPENDENT WOMEN !
Cheers for keeping me entertained!
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Thank you! Glad you could relate! Stay strong!
I’ve already let you know my thoughts on this post (with my friggin’ essay message this morning).
Absolutely fantastic. I can 100% relate, and I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING WRITTEN.
I love how your personality really came out in this post too. Honestly, people really do need to understand that being cheated on doesn’t automatically make it their fault (like how many people try to claim it does).
Self love is very important, and that’s exactly what I am about. I’m “Comfy on my ones”.
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Thank you!! Cheating is such a selfish act and no one should have to go through having to find it out. I just wanted to display the emotions and heartbreak we went through without sounding too bitter. I am happy people have gone through similar situations and are able to relate. I am really humbled at the response already!
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JRT I knew when I met you in the college days you were real then and your still real now. It’s a well written pieces highlighting the diverse affect modern days is having on every relationship.Those who are determined to be rich fall into temptation and a snare and many senseless and hurtful desires. I believe and live by it. We endure everything with joy best revenge ever.
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Thanks for reading man! I appreciate the feedback! I am happy they’re still people out there with morals like yourself!!