If you’re easily triggered, I wouldn’t bother with this blog nevertheless, as always you can learn something with what I am about to say!
I wrote a shorter version of this over at themovehub.com a few months back but I feel like I didn’t do enough justice with the strict word count I was given. So here is the DSD version of it.
How much of our frustration in your life is caused by wondering and worrying about what others are doing? I’d venture to guess that it’s A LOT! Other than that, how many years have been subtracted from your life and nights of good sleep because of stress about what others think? Why do you care about what others are doing? What they’re accomplishing. What other people are thinking?
I once read a quote that said, “Comparison is the thief of joy”. Those words spoke to me so loudly. When you spend time thinking about what other people are doing, it’s difficult to invest the necessary energy to be the best possible version of yourself. You become less grateful and it’s harder to see your own personal progress and easier to get down on yourself which incites unnecessary stress. I learned a long time ago, that everyone has their own unique lane.
Being a negative person always worrying about what other people are doing, thinking, saying, spending, and so on is like setting out a welcome mat for gossip, jealousy, anger, misunderstandings, damaged relationships and so much more. Who wants that?
If others are part of that then cool, let them be. I feel like I have to ask myself these questions. Or I might forget what I am made for and start believing in something that isn’t a permanent reality unless I accept that as the truth.
My focus is solely on my goals of bettering myself and how I can accomplish them. I approach my work with clear intentions of what, I, Jason, need to work on. The goal in life is to keep it simple and to execute MY best race. I don’t just go with the flow because that’s what those around me are doing. I have defined in my mind my highest priorities and my focus is to continually work to take steps in that direction.
If you are trapped in a pit of self-pity and sorrow because someone has hurt you, broken your heart, or taken advantage of you, ask yourself why you shouldn’t celebrate them leaving your life? You deserve better than to be trampled all over, so if someone has left or mistreated you, bid them good riddance and recognize that they are the ones missing out on a good thing while they try to figure out what they want in life.
When you see me, you are looking at PROGRESS – not a finished product. So many times I could have stopped and fallen off after having experienced my fair share of less focused times over the course of my training. Nevertheless, I stuck with it. I stayed on course and worked towards what I didn’t yet see. One of the most intimidating factors involved in committing to something, particularly out loud is the chance you may fail. And others will be able to see it.
If you fear you’re not good enough, why? Who is it you’re trying to impress and why does their opinion matter so much? It’s time to stop piling on the pressure and giving yourself a breakdown about what exes, in-laws, nosey know-it-alls, and other inconsequential people (that’s right, I called your ex, your rude mother-in-law and everyone else who drives you insane INCONSEQUENTIAL!). I’m not saying that it’s time to stop playing nice with others. As I always say “if someone’s going to be trash, let it be them” But along the way, just stay in your lane. You have no control over their nonsense!
What did that glimpse of your dream look like? What’s the step you can take? Why not? This blog post is a challenge. I am challenging you to dream. A lot of peeps say they ‘give up’ because they get bored. Tired of the same diet, the workouts, the same long class hours, even though just a few weeks of consistency has proven to yield a result, they still get bored and quit! It’s crazy! Imagine a few more months of your energy invested in that repetition. What would you look like/think like/produce? So don’t give up, all good things take time.
Sometimes giving up seems like the easy option, you almost convince yourself you never really wanted it in the first place. Don’t worry, we have all been there but do you know what? Giving up has NEVER felt better than achieving your goals. It’s your choice, it’s a brand new week. Are you going to sink or swim?
Reflection allows for growth. Growth allows space and with space, you have room to grow! Are you feeling stuck? Don’t know what direction to start putting your time, attention, and efforts BUT you’ve got a desire to do more? It starts with reflection, right?
Really visualize yourself driving that amazing car that symbolizes your life and the things you need to worry about. Turn on the ignition and make a diary of the things within your control and within your scope of responsibilities. So, either drive yourself right into a ditch of frustration, anger, guilt, or turn up some favourite tunes, set the cruise control, and coast along minding your own business!
It’s time to let all of the garbage that others bring into your life go! When you dedicate so much of your time and attention to what people in other “cars” are doing, you are wasting away precious bits of your own life that you can’t get back. You are allowing people who may not be thinking of you at all to control your thoughts and emotions with little possibility that any of that stress will change anything for the better.
Take a look around – a good look – around the life you’ve created and accepted, probably sharing it with someone or maybe you’re single. Nonetheless, you’ve co-signed on what “lane” you’re existing in. So you wake up and decide “I want to change! I’m ready!” However, have you asked, why? What makes me who I am, today?
I should stop writing and let that simmer! If you haven’t even got an answer for what “Why” how the heck do you plan on changing! Most of us are just cruising along with life, maybe you like it, maybe hating every waking moment! But it’s your life!
Actually thinking about the life you created and how/why you chose this path. If you don’t accept there’s a problem to be addressed first, that stuff will pop up its ugly head while you’re trying to make a big life change and send you right back to square one! So, with that, I’ll say it again! Take a look around – a good look – around the life you’ve created and accepted. How did you get here?
If you’re reading this you’re the fucking shit, nobody can make you think anything different so be confident in your own damn self.
Keep your head down and work towards your goals at the finish line. So, either drive yourself right into a ditch of frustration, anger, guilt, or turn up some of your favourite tunes, sip on that Supermalt, set the cruise control, and coast along minding your own business! Most importantly, be patient.