Life II

I dropped part 1, of my blog “Life” and it received some great feedback with so many people agreeing with what I said. I know some were intrigued to find out what I was about to expose and here it is!

Below is the 2nd part, I’ve been waiting for months to drop this one because it’s such a touchy subject. Let me tell a story about the Darkside Don and or/ my newish name (Thanks to Fran), JasDon.

You know there’s more to me right? So let me tell you about the thoughts that were on my mind! With the life I lived, I was at a stage of my life, I didn’t trust anyone. So I stayed on my own. As I look at my life in depth and thinking about thoughts inside my head. Thinking of death is going to find me next. If it doesn’t, how can I progress in steps?

LIFE – the period between the birth and death of a living thing, especially a human being.

I was a stage of my life, where that’s all I used to think about. It was a very scary moment. I still think about it from time-to-time but not as extreme. Not going to lie, I am scared of dying because you just never know when it can happen and it used to worry me. It was around the time of my “Goodbye” blog where that was all I used to think about. After that experience, I just made a thing that I had to enjoy my life. If that involved me, going aboard to enjoy a different experience, I’d just book it without thinking.

What exactly does it feel like to die? What can you see as your life leaves your physical body? How will it come about? Is it anything like people have reported—a bright light.

As most know, I like the saying that I am bringing my darkness to light via my site (hence the name, ‘Darkside Don’ but what if we die and the light at the end of the tunnel is the same one to another hospital room. This room is where we are born again and the only reason you’re crying is that you remember everything that has happened in your past life. The noise from babies crying when they’re born is in fact when you’ve died and lost everything. However, as you grow you start to forget about your previous life and focus on the life you’re now living. When you feel like you’ve experienced something previously (like Deja vu) is it because of the patches of your old memory still lingering, think about it.

img_20161025_005345 — I know your face is like this atm

Around the world, about 100 people die every minute. So what happens in the first few moments of the initial process of death as oxygen is quickly taken away and the brain activity slowly stops working? It stops giving off hormones that regulate the different functions of the body, though some may carry on for a few minutes. Whatever remaining parts of the body are eaten away by plants and animals over the subsequent years, even the skeletal remains.

I know I am a hot-chocolate looking guy but I don’t want maggots breaking me down slowly for a long period of time while pretending they love me as they eat away my flesh. I had that problem before when my ex che …. nvm

But I guess that’s the only way as my body is left entirely at the mercy of the elements, every aspect of the body will be broken down. Then, the molecules are recycled in nature. No-one will know how we will die. I still would like a quick and painless death, preferably in my sleep rather than a long drawn-out illness, when it can take you out at any moment and the inability to prepare, can be frightening. If we do know, we’ve been diagnosed with a terminal illness, it can still be scary. But it is only a moment. A moment nearly everyone has gone through or will go through.

“How did you overcome the fear of death?” I hear you wondering.

It is hard-wired into our systems to avoid it. Checking when you’re crossing a road or holding a knife correctly for example. Nevertheless, it is a grace that we die. If we didn’t, we would have to live in a sinful world for all eternity. Beginning with, what is the actual fear? There are several aspects of death that can potentially cause fear. But having people and things you are responsible for won’t keep you from dying if it’s your time. Reconcile broken friendship and family-ships before you’re unable to. But don’t live for dying. There’s a difference between taking reasonable steps and obsessing.

Do I have to let those closest to me know what I want—or at least tell them where it’s written down? I felt like I had to choose someone you trust to be authorized to make decisions for you, should you become unable. But I didn’t trust anyone. However, the most important thing I had to keep telling myself regarding death is that it’s the only truth about life. I may worry about my earthly legacy, but God’s more concerned with a kingdom perspective. All the paperwork in the world won’t bring the peace of mind of one simple action: abide.

Life is full of disappointments, failures and setbacks. None of those things can permanently stop you. You have the power in you to overcome anything that life throws at you. There’s nothing as powerful as a made-up mind. Surround yourself with people who remind you that you matter and support you in the ways that matter most to you.

No person, situation, or circumstance can define who you are.

Don’t give up, cave in, or stop believing that it’s possible. It’s not over until you win. There’s something about being broken at various times in your life, that makes you a more complete person. There is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some people come into your life to test you, some to teach you, some to use you and some to bring out the very best in you. Dark times teach you a lot. That’s why you can’t regret what you went through but rather be thankful for all the lessons you learned from it. What’s done is done. What’s gone is gone. One of life’s lessons is always moving on. It’s okay to look back and think of fond memories but keep moving forward.

The best feeling is when you just naturally click with a person, talking all day, every day, laughs, and attention. If someone is responsible for your smiles then be responsible with their heart. To me, it’s about being with someone that makes you better daily.

Not someone who is breaking you down slowly. Otherwise walk alone and confront your fears. It’s better than being in a room wiping your tears. How can you be grateful for the positive things in your life and how are you supposed to possess the strength to change your bad habits? Find an accountability partner, speak to the life you wish to create for yourself. Not only will your partner hold you accountable but you will not want to let yourself down either. When you speak out loud, what you will and will not do who you are, are not and what you expect, you speak power into your life. Find a quiet place and start your day with peace. There are people who love you and they need you but you cannot give any positive energy to anyone if you don’t take the time to empower themselves first. Let me remind you, wherever your focus is directed that’s where your energy goes. Whatever you allow in your space, you eventually become.

I believe that you must start each day with peace and gratefulness in your spirit. Visualize achieving your goals and speak affirmations out loud. This helps me to get my day on the right track and immediately beings appreciation into my spirit. We as people often create the habit of speaking words of negativity into our own lives. It’s usually the first thing that comes out of our mouth. Gossip and complaints about life and other people. Believe it or not, your words have power than you may think. Your words have the power than you may thing. Your words have the power to heal. Your words have the power to hurt. Words cut like a sword.

Get away from negative people! You want to grow and grow in the direction you want to go. Plants seek light energy. If you give them even a little bit they will grow towards the light. They will stretch and twist around an obstacle to lean closer and closer to that window to be as close to the light as possible. You’ve gotta be like the plants.

Find positive people to get around because like it or not you are getting fed. Let the good, the positive, and the bright energy feed you! That way you can blossom and grow stronger and more sturdy and confident and bright. Don’t forget that you’re human. It’s okay to have a meltdown. Just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed. Stop allowing yourself to think that flaws are real. We are all different therefore, there can be no flaws. Stop it. You are you.

P.S Some of us may have a friend or two who we think maybe for us but in reality, they could bring nothing but darkness that we cannot see. And they would like us to stay in the dark with them because they want to continue to value us in the way they value themselves and they don’t want to be in the dark alone. You gotta be okay with the fact that it might not be your friend holding that flashlight, it might not be you holding the light. In fact, could be nothing more than a like-minded stranger. So what. Go get that light.

You’re always one decision away from a totally different life. Create your own philosophies. We fill our heads with other people’s ideas before we try and understand the world ourselves. The universe is very organized even though it looks like chaos within it. Only until you step out and look at the big picture from afar you will realize that nothing is a coincidence.

Being positive doesn’t mean you don’t ever have negative thoughts. It means you don’t let those thoughts control your life. Nothing is built from the top down. It’s from bottom up. One brick at a time and with a plan set in motion each day is used purposefully to build. Your life is no different. Still, we are so easily discouraged by the ‘appearance’ of finished products all around us daily, that it can seem futile to ever believe we can reach a place of settled, achievement, completion, a sound structure of a person who can be proud of choices they’ve made. This over-stimulation of progress in everyone’s life can quickly discourage someone still trying to figure it out. Just remember they had to start too. And not everything that appears “well made” is all appears to be.

Stay in your lane, your life is important and will require an enormous amount of energy and attention to develop. Stay focused on that and set a plan in motion to build your foundation first. There’s no skipping that part, work is required. Understand the opportunity you’ve been granted, take charge of your situation, and be thankful you are here. My goal is to build a life, I don’t need a vacation from but visiting new places will always be something I enjoy. Stay patient and trust your journey.

Do whatever the fuck you want, just don’t hurt people in the process. There’s nothing better than personal connections, I don’t mind sharing part of my life to help others, to inspire you somewhere along your journey. I don’t post my issues, I show my strength.

So with you reading my two past posts, can you now see why your life matters? I am not trying to scare anyone obviously but getting you to the point of making sure you live this beautiful life, we’ve been blessed with. Especially when you’re stressing over the stuff you can’t control! Be happy with what you have because you never know when it’s our time to go!