“If you end up with a boring or miserable life because you listened to your mum, dad, your teacher, priest/pastor or someone on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it”
Frank Zappa (1940 – 1993)
I bet you weren’t expecting that, was you? Lol. Let’s get straight into the blog!
The above statement was deep but so true. NO one has the right to “tell you how they feel” all over your life especially the family. They’re still people after all. They’re flawed like everyone just the same. Love them with that extra stuff but you still have the final say.
Your life is a masterpiece. It’s a work of an art in the making. It didn’t start as a completed project nor will it remain a blank canvas. Heartbreaks and failures are vibrant colours splashed on canvas. Choices to rise above the pain and grow are like methodical brush strokes of this work of art your life represents. You haven’t failed, you’ve just been given a new colour to paint your canvas. Never forget what you have been through to get where you are now; if your present situation doesn’t match, do not dwell on the past or what you have done.
We live in a generation that is highly skilled at allowing connections to fade away. Because of social media and phones, we think people are replaceable and that’s silly. You cannot replace the energy of someone who is genuine especially if they’re putting a consistent effort to be in your life. Appreciate them, cherish that, those people are gold. Gently reminder that you’ll gravitate naturally towards the people that are meant to be in your life.
However, cutting someone completely off from your life is sometimes necessary for your peace and growth. Don’t feel guilty about it. There will be a moment you realise you cannot be everyone’s hero and that’s fine. Don’t ever feel bad for making a decision about your own life that upsets other people. You’re not responsible for their happiness but your own! Anyone who wants you to live in misery for their happiness should not be in your life, to begin with.
If you don’t have good intentions with me please leave me alone.
Sometimes you need to look around and be grateful for what didn’t go your way because if that person didn’t leave you rock bottom, you wouldn’t have figured out, that you didn’t love yourself or your life. Then you wouldn’t have discovered how much more God had for you.
There have been many times I’ve felt like a sailor on an open sea without a compass. It can get a dark, scary and lonely place but then something amazing came into view. I’d be lying if I said that I wasn’t hopeless for a moment when everything crumbled and I thought I couldn’t pick myself off the floor because I had no strength in me. I had to learn to let go of all expectations I had (none which involved heartbreak and loss) so I could see the silver lining. An amazing thing happened when I did just that, my perception of life changed. I was able to appreciate the lows because there were sweet lovely moments of stillness and quiet. The light began to peak through, so look for the good in everything.
You need to ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live YOUR best and only life. You are not in a competition with anyone else; plan to outdo your past, not other people.
Some may not like what I’m gonna say next. Nevertheless, at this present moment, you have everything you should have in life. Nothing more, nothing less. Your friends getting married? Okay. Children? Cool. Bought a house? Yeah, so what? That’s their time! Don’t be looking at what others doing and focus on your hustle. Everything that’s happening right now is happening for a reason. Things aren’t always going to look pretty or feel comfortable, or even seem necessary. Just have enough faith not to quit, understand that things work out how and when they’re supposed to. Use everything that happens to you and around you as tools to help build you, the good and the bad. Don’t allow tempory circumstances to cloud your vision. Realise that the testing of your faith is to produce patience and the power of patience gives us the will to persevere and that will promise us not just success, but peace and joy. Don’t run from the struggle, it’s there to make you stronger. Don’t be moved by fear, your faith can take you beyond it.
Use each opportunity as a stepping stone to creating something more, not as another thing to brag about. Critical thinking is rare, always question everything you hear. Don’t accept the popular perspective unless it coincides with your heart. Life is the most difficult exam – many people fail because they try to copy others. Don’t look at people’s pictures on social media and wish you were them. Embrace who you are. God created you in the best form.
Having a healthy mind is just as important as having a healthy body. Keep feeding it with positive thoughts. Clean-hearted people ALWAYS prosper in the end but they’re shegged the most. Trust me, I know.
That’s why all good will come to us in the end. If you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt. Everybody isn’t supposed to like you. If you woke up healthy and well be happy to see the next day in life, don’t make negative people bring you down. At the end of the day, you will only have yourself to blame, no one else! Life is about balance. If everyone likes you, you’re doing something wrong. People like you when you doing just as bad or worst. Avoid beating the competition. Focus on bettering yourself.
Let’s have a break!
Put your tongue back in your head guys! Back to the blog!
I never really understood the glorification of Friday’s and weekends. I don’t want to build a life and career where I spent 5 days a week waiting for the weekend! No! Enjoy your life and DON’T wish any weekday away! Let each day matter to you equally the same. Love your life and treat every day like it’s Friday! Stop waiting for Friday, for summer, for someone to fall in love with you, for life. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make the most of the moment you are in right now.
Your life is the gradual process of pushing, gaining ground and choosing to start from that new place of heights all over again. You’re right where you are because that’s where you’ve pushed and stopped. But are you gonna stop there! Better not!
Following your plan closely and constantly refocusing to stay on an intentional pursuit of truth in your life. That doesn’t mean *never failing* that means in spite of failing we carry on! We make peace with what we can’t control and still choose to do work to learn, grow, love and make more calculated choices for our blessings of this new day.
Ignore the negative people around you. Believe in your life. Never give up on yourself. Look yourself in the mirror and just stare at yourself, look deeply in your eyes and ask yourself certain questions;
- Where is your fire?
- Are you happy?
- What do you believe in?
What are you afraid of?
The fact that you aren’t where you want to be, should be enough motivation. Eventually, you’ll end up where you need to be, with who you’re meant to be with and doing what you should be doing!
Everything in life is temporary. So if things are going good, enjoy it because it won’t last forever and if things are going bad, don’t worry. It can’t last forever either.
“You can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach”
If you don’t look up to see where you are going, you may be the hamster on the wheel of life moving fast and going nowhere real fast. Ask yourself, where am I heading? If you can’t answer that or you aren’t satisfied with the answer then you know what to do.
We are not given a good life or a bad life.
We’re given a life. It’s up to us to make it good or bad. Enjoy the little things in life because one day you will look back and realise they were the big things. Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your dreams. They don’t need to, it is not for them. People lose motivation because they lack reason. Know why you do what you do. Sometimes giving up seems like an easy option, you almost convince yourself you never really wanted it in the first place.
Knowing your worth is key to identifying what’s not worth your time. The more I learn how cruel the world is. The more I want to do good for others.
“Live your life without malicious intent” so basically live your truth, be you, do you and don’t purposely hurt anyone in the process.
A meaningful life is not being rich, being popular, being highly educated. It is about being real, being humble, being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others. It is only then that we could have a full, happy and contented life.
Don’t be afraid of new beginnings from new people, new energy, new surroundings and new challenges. Embrace new chances as happiness. I realised that life is so much better when people don’t know what you’re up to. Hence why I really try and keep my plans inside of me, not everyone deserves to know.
However, let me tell you something about my life, that no-one and I mean no-one actually knows about!
Tune in next week, Thursday 16th February 2017 at 9pm!