Raise your hand if you have left a work environment because it was effecting your mental health?
I am guessing it’s a lot of you! It takes bravery and confidence to do this, so big up you if you have. I understand, it’s easier said than done but sometimes it’s essential.
It’s Sunday and we all dread that Monday feeling. A toxic work environment is like having all of these challenges on repeat, without a break. Toxic work environments breed unrest, competition, low morale, constant stressors, negativity, sickness, high turnover, and even bullying. Even worse? Toxic workplaces rarely stay at work. They typically follow you home and into family and relationship life. They take over your conversations with loved ones and generally cause worry and stress.
Abuse by the hands of managers should be spoken about more. I’ve seen stories being yelled out, threatened, some even spoke about cornered, physically in conference rooms during meetings. It’s crazy.
I’ve been a manager myself and getting your team on your side is the difficult part but once that happens, it’s easier to do your job regardless of how much stress you’re getting from the above. People skills is an essential part of managing people, without that, forget about becoming in a manager, well a good one at that.
What I will never understand is the power that goes unchecked when this mistreatment happens. Somehow, “managers” are allowed to flip out on their teams and remain in their positions and even get promoted and often these very same people continue their behaviour from job to job because they know that there will be no consequences. Neverthelesss, because of that people live in fear of even more abuse or risk losing their job. Some would say, they’re scared to perceived as weak or too sensitive. It has been shown that speaking out doesn’t always benefit the person being mistreated. In my eyes, that’s some bullshit.
How can anyone consider themselves a leader/manager and act that way in a workplace, where most of us having to spend a large amount of time there! It’s ridiculous. A good manager can make all the difference. Especially when they know how to actually manage people. Getting frustrated or having a bad day is part of being a human but taking it out on your team is terrible.
I remember of one of my workplaces that was very toxic, I have never experienced this before in my life. Some managers were all scared that I’d take their jobs as I was more skilled than them. They’d see me as a threat and not as a part of the TEAM. I treated everyone with respect and empathy. Don’t sacrifice your mental health for money! That is your more valuable asset. The damage that is does to your confidence will be draining. I was constantly questioning my abilities and the experience rocked me to my core. The day that I made the decision to leave for an opportunity to do what I have always wanted to do was life changing. When I left, my old employees begged for me to comeback because the new manager was toxic! But I was off doing bigger and better things.
We always tend to focus on the celebration of getting a new job, which is great but let’s normalise celebrating when you leave a job that is no longer serving you. Being able to leave a job when you want is a privilege, I know certain literally just up and leave, I get it. Nevertheless, for anyone that wants to leave their work enironvment but can’t yet, don’t worry. I understand COVID-19 has slowed down a lot of things but a new opportunity will come when it’s supposed to. So in advance, congratulations.